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Last week I spoke with a client who contacted me to solve some conflicts in his team and to improve the collaboration. When I proposed him to have a team coaching session his reaction was ‘No thank you, never again!’  His reaction surprised me first but when he told me his experience with team coaching I understood. It was a meeting where all the problems, everything that bothered about the colleagues and the company was put on the table and it ended in a lot of frustration and hurt feelings. It made things worse, not better. I am convinced it is

SF Holidays The holidays are coming and we are all preparing for Easter in the family. It is well known since years BC that no man is a prophet in his own home. No matter what a great manager, inspirational leader, trustworthy coach you are, once inside your parents' home, you become the person you used to be before all the great changes you went through. And you find yourself clinging to the remains of your awareness and calm I do not know much about other families, but in ours the holidays are a challenge to everyone. Especially the meals. So, to help my

There are few  things you know for sure as a Solution Focused practitioner. This is actually one of the most charming things about this approach – its grammar has very few principles and the rest is improvisation, playing around with them until the client have reached their goal. As a new practitioner  of SF and a  passionate theater maker, whenever I have time to let my mind wonder, I create mental experiments: short imaginary dramas and conflistc in which I try to get pairs of Solution Focused affirmations in trouble, preferably against each other and see whether they can come out of it unscathed.

In guiding people, be it as a preacher, tribal chief, leader, manager or coach, we all use elements from the same repertoire: stories (be they personal or not), positive examples, cautionary tales, advice, suggestions and, the most powerful tool to direct attention: questions. Knowing this, we, as coaches and trainers of coaches, need to question ourselves about the questions we use: which are the most useful? What direction is it worth to send the client’s mind chasing? How are the best questions formulated? What will change for our clients when we vary our questioning style? In the same way, any leader of

It is fairly obvious that we all want our conversations to be constructive. Our meetings would be shorter and more pleasant and efficient, we would come out of our short dialogues with colleagues feeling energised and proud of the team we are part of. Constructive conversations, strong and pleasant, I imagine this might be how it feels  to surf perfect waves. How to initiate such conversations as a manager? How can you create the conditions so that, even when your are not there, your team would continue to have conversations that are more often constructive than conflictual. I asked Vasile Ecobici, a

By Alina Goanta, Solution Focused Brief Coach It’s been four years now since I have been practicing coaching as a professional coach and yet, I have to admit, I still find it difficult to give an answer when asked “What is coaching?” Nevertheless, there are some keywords that, from my point of view, capture the essence of it. I would say coaching is a process that takes place within a partnership based on mutual trust and confidence that, ultimately, leads to personal growth. As I read the definition I’ve attempted above, I realize that, if you put it this way, coaching

The Borg – a fictional Star Trek alien race whose purpose is to achieve perfection. Their mode of existance is The Collective, in which there is no more individuality (as there is only one way to be „perfect”, how could perfect creatures be different?). The Borg is the recurring antagonist, a threat to the Federation, as they are aiming to assimilate all races and planets into the Collective. Their main message upon meeting others is „Resistance is futile”. Putting ourselves in the Borg’s shoes, their cause is a noble one  - they want what is best for everyone! - and we

I don’t know – but I can help you find out! Choosing a coaching approach is like choosing a place to eat out. Sometimes you just want to get out of your own kitchen, don’t you? While ingredients are numerous to begin with, the ways to combine them are innumerable. As we speak, there is a cook somewhere giving a small twist to an old recipe and changing the experience of it for his customers. No matter how familiar or strange, all recipes that exist are delicious to some people and unpalatable to others. You can go to an Italian Pizzerian, an Argentinian

By: Robert Blaga (Robert's Website) When I learned that I was accepted into college, the Psychology department, about 12 years ago, my mind was set on becoming a psychotherapist. I was eager to learn the craft and start helping people work on their challenges. After only six months, I gave up. The first rule of the game was to keep your mouth shut and don’t offer solutions to the client. It was not my kind of business. What if I know what the client should do? What if his own solutions are stupid or, worse, they are dangerous? "I can’t shut up and

A manager asked yesterday, When you ask people for their best hopes of change don’t they sometimes say something which is totally unrealistic? Yes, of course! So what do you do with it? In  a  coaching session the client said his best hope would there would no longer be a boss. Me: So what difference would that make for you? Client: Oh, I would have time to do the things I am interested in. Me: So what would that be? I was curious to find out more about what he was enthusiastic about and he wanted to spend more time and energy on. And it was even something work